That’s why I became a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and started my own practice, Jennifer Hopes, LMFT. I believe that people (especially you) deserve self-compassion, self-love, and to be recognized as a perfectly flawed human being with great opportunity for success, just as you are.
I believe you are worthy of greatness, despite that little voice in your head telling you otherwise. I believe in facing fears, making mistakes, and learning the big lessons. But before I tell you all the reasons why I think you deserve nothing but the best, let me formally introduce myself…
Hello and welcome! I’m Jennifer Hopes and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist…but you might also call me your Life Balance Guide, Hope Holder, and Self-Esteem Healer.
I help women who long for healthier relationships, improved boundaries (professionally and personally), and increased confidence and self-esteem, but feel suffocated by the demands of others, the expectations they place on themselves, and the need to be perfect.
Women in today’s society are juggling many different roles. Some of these roles include, but are not limited to: Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Professional, Chauffeur, Housekeeper, Cheerleader, Chef, Event Planner, Personal Assistant, Therapist, and Caregiver. When these roles become too overwhelming, or imbalanced, it can lead to feelings of resentment, inadequacy, depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
You’ve become caught up in saying “YES” to everyone else and saying “NO” to you; thereby, creating an imbalanced system and a worn out you.
You’ve heard the analogy of the airplane directions before: Put on your oxygen mask before helping those around you. Together, we will work on making this an all encompassing view for your life, in turn restoring your life balance
providing you with peace of mind improving your relationships and strengthening your self-esteem.
If this sounds like something you’ve been looking for then stick around. Therapy will be a journey where we first discuss the current problems that have brought you here and gradually move on to the following areas:
1) Your history
The history of your current problems and where they initially began and a brief bit of understanding of your upbringing and relationships with various close family members.
2) Your Present Patterns
The current behavior patterns you maintain and how those may or may not be reflections of your past.
3) A New Version of You
Breaking away from old patterns to form healthier new behaviors in your professional life roles, personal life roles, relationships, and overall self view.
Not too painful right? Let me tell you why I know it’s worth it. As a bit of a perfectionist and work-a-holic myself, I am always monitoring my work/life balance and find this to be especially helpful in relating to my clients.
Practicing self-care and using the word “NO” can be challenging when you aim to please, but it can also bring about significant relief and healthier more rewarding relationships.
I believe we all have unique struggles and none can be judged as more or less severe than another. The important thing is ensuring that you have adequate support during your struggle. Support that will validate, not judge. Support that will empathize, not criticize. Support that will encourage new perspectives, not cast doubt. Support that will lead to a better version of you!
I help my clients find their inner confidence, strength, and voice to set clear and healthy boundaries in their lives. My clients begin to learn the value of themselves and why their self-worth is vital to being the best version of themselves. I guide them towards feeling empowered, confident and ultimately valuing themselves so they can be successful at home and at work.
A Bit Of My Own Story…
I know from my own journey to work/life balance that you are carrying around heavy burdens, immense resentments, and debilitating self-talk, all of which are burying you. There is hope and there are steps you can take to feel better and have value while still setting clear boundaries with those important individuals in your life.
5 Empowering Moments in My Life
Surviving a grueling 4-years in a Master’s Program while working Full-Time as a Social Worker.
I always thought of myself as pretty lazy and hadn’t accomplished anything out of the ordinary prior to these 4-years. They remain the four hardest years of my life (I imagine that will change after kids), but I never once considered quitting. This was the first time I realized that I could do anything if I wanted it badly enough.
Finding love that challenges me daily.
I had few relationships, devoting much of my time to work, family, and close friends. Finding love was something I questioned I was capable of…keeping it has been work and I’m grateful every day for the challenge it brings and the lessons I’ve learned.
Becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
The long awaited journey came down to a little piece of paper that doesn’t quite tell the story it should. I’m still figuring out if I’ve earned the title, but I’m finding my footing with time. The four years of graduate school showed me what I was capable of completing in a 24-hour period day after day (this was the beginning of my “work-a-holic days) but finding love and becoming licensed was where I learned the value of balance…something I am still working on and will probably always work at.
Starting my own business.
I always dreamt it, despite the discouraging words I received from others. Then, one day it happened. Over time, it has become more than just a vague dream. It has become the model of my values, beliefs, and vision for me. Always a work in progress, but a great example to anyone of like mind and spirit.
Finding a healthy work-life balance.
Following my #4, starting my own business and realizing that the very clients I want to help are all versions of me over the years trying to find my balance. It has taken me years to understand just a small piece of myself, to break some of my old unhealthy patterns, and to begin to accept and value myself as much as I do the needs of others. I will always be working on me and this is the most empowering of all – to learn something new about myself with each new day and each new phase of life. Understanding this concept, that we are always learning and improving, has shown me just how much we are all capable of, nothing is more empowering.
A Closer Look At Me…
Jennifer received a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from California State University, Bakersfield in 2007. She went on to receive her Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from California State University, Bakersfield in 2011. Eventually becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in September 2014.
Along with maintaining a clinical private practice, Jennifer remains diverse in her field of study by providing services to at-risk youth in outlying areas of Kern County. She has also been a Lecturer and Professor at California State University, Bakersfield in the Master’s of Counseling Psychology Program and the Undergraduate Psychology Department since 2015. Courses include Clinical Ethics and Law, Adult and Family Development, Theory and Techniques of Developmental Counseling with Children and Adolescence, Crisis and Trauma, Child Psychology, Abnormal Psychology, and Interpersonal & Group Processing Skills. She was Interim Clinic Director at the CSUB Counselor Training Clinic and provides supervision to graduate students in training to become licensed marriage and family therapists.
Jennifer has over 10 years experience working with broad and diverse populations of individuals, couples, families, and children. Much of Jennifer's training involves work with children and their families. She later expanded her scope of knowledge to adults and couples. Having worked with the Bakersfield Homeless Shelter, various Group Homes in Bakersfield, Henrietta Weill Memorial Child Guidance Clinic, Advanced Medical Psychiatric Services, and the CSUB Counselor Training Clinic, Jennifer has significant experience with socioeconomic, racial, and cultural differences amongst individuals.
Jennifer has been the guest speaker at events for Junior League of Bakersfield, CSUB's Academic Advancement Division, and the Kern County Sheriff's Department Crisis Negotiation Team.
I believe self-compassion and bold women will change the world.
I am challenging you to take this journey of self-improvement with me. Let’s find the best version of you! Call or email me today for a free 15-minute phone consult at (661) 477-2196 or Jennifer.Hopes30@gmail.com.